Possible Identity

Occasionally I wonder who the fireplace ghost is, but to be honest it doesn't really matter. I just appreciate and enjoy its company. It could be a relative or friend of mine, a complete stranger, a guardian angel, or maybe it's even a vessel for any spirit that wishes to make contact with me or my guests.

In order to determine who it could be, the timeline needs to be looked at. I mentioned in my first post that there was lamp that used to turn on at my parents place, so these two may well be related. There were many people to pass away around the time that the lamp started turning on, indicating several possibilities. The two that stand out to me would be my grandma, and my good friend who passed away when we were 15 years old.

On April 21, 2014 it hit me like it does every year that the following day would mark another anniversary of my friend's death day. This one 11 years since his passing. My boyfriend was over that evening, and I was reminiscing to him about some fond memories, as well as going back over the way by which he died. I was in the kitchen making supper, and he was in the living room. I remember that I wanted to wrap up the conversation as it as making me a little sad when at that moment my boyfriend's body completely froze while starring at something. I said, "what is it?" and he finally peeled his eyes away from what the fireplace and said, "the fireplace just came on, right in front of me".

To be honest I didn't even make the connection right away, but did think it was neat as this was the first time he had appeared for my boyfriend. I probably said something to the effect of "well that's pretty crazy, maybe he wants to stay for supper?" but his words were "it's him!".

Well now that would be a sign now wouldn't it?

Advice

I've researched soul mates, and sources say that when two first come together the intensity is often so great that it breaks them apart, but that the two will often find each other again after a period of time to cool off.

In my last post, I mentioned an epic breakup with my boyfriend. I described it as so, mainly because the relationship was intense right from us first meeting, through to its abrupt demise. We met each other on an online dating website. He was the first person I replied to, and the first and only person that I actually met in person. We hit it off immediately, becoming inseparable very quickly.

Soon after beginning our relationship he was spending most nights at my place, and after two months we decided that he should just move in officially. I don't fall for people easily, and am usually very cautious in dating therefore the pace at which this one moved was significantly out of character. So out of character that I believed he was "the one", especially because we always commented on how we felt as though we had known each other for years prior. Almost as though we were picking up where we left off, in a past life.

After a series of unfortunate and incredibly stressful events in his life, emotions ran too high to make the relationship work. We broke up after only three months, and did not exchange a single word for another four at which time I found myself thinking about him randomly one day, with intensity. I reflected on the relationship and break-up, and wondered how he was doing. It was the kind of situation where you haven't thought about a person in a forever and then when you do, you get a phone call from them or run into them shortly after. That is exactly what happened, for that evening I received a message from him on the dating site that we first met on.

We exchanged messages back and forth, but I couldn't help the feeling of uncertainty around whether or not I should let this person back into my life. So I did what I do with all dilemmas; I asked the fireplace ghost. I was getting ready for bed one evening and I said "if it is right for me to give him another chance, please have me wake up to your light in the living room".

It's funny how clueless we can be when we first wake up in the mornings, as the next day I walked out of my room and said "oh the fireplace is on" all nonchalant. Until I realized what it meant, then my jaw dropped.

My soul mate and I have been back together ever since. The fireplace ghost is simply always right.