Advice

I've researched soul mates, and sources say that when two first come together the intensity is often so great that it breaks them apart, but that the two will often find each other again after a period of time to cool off.

In my last post, I mentioned an epic breakup with my boyfriend. I described it as so, mainly because the relationship was intense right from us first meeting, through to its abrupt demise. We met each other on an online dating website. He was the first person I replied to, and the first and only person that I actually met in person. We hit it off immediately, becoming inseparable very quickly.

Soon after beginning our relationship he was spending most nights at my place, and after two months we decided that he should just move in officially. I don't fall for people easily, and am usually very cautious in dating therefore the pace at which this one moved was significantly out of character. So out of character that I believed he was "the one", especially because we always commented on how we felt as though we had known each other for years prior. Almost as though we were picking up where we left off, in a past life.

After a series of unfortunate and incredibly stressful events in his life, emotions ran too high to make the relationship work. We broke up after only three months, and did not exchange a single word for another four at which time I found myself thinking about him randomly one day, with intensity. I reflected on the relationship and break-up, and wondered how he was doing. It was the kind of situation where you haven't thought about a person in a forever and then when you do, you get a phone call from them or run into them shortly after. That is exactly what happened, for that evening I received a message from him on the dating site that we first met on.

We exchanged messages back and forth, but I couldn't help the feeling of uncertainty around whether or not I should let this person back into my life. So I did what I do with all dilemmas; I asked the fireplace ghost. I was getting ready for bed one evening and I said "if it is right for me to give him another chance, please have me wake up to your light in the living room".

It's funny how clueless we can be when we first wake up in the mornings, as the next day I walked out of my room and said "oh the fireplace is on" all nonchalant. Until I realized what it meant, then my jaw dropped.

My soul mate and I have been back together ever since. The fireplace ghost is simply always right.